ErAlok Kumar’s Blogs Page, Rediff iLand

“We
do not remember days, we remember moments. The richness of life lies in
memories we have forgotten, because the true art of memory is the art
of attention.”

Memory
is a function of the brain: the ability to retain information. Memory
is much studied by cognitive psychology and neuroscience. There are
multiple types of classifications for memory based on duration, nature
and retrieval of perceived items. The terms "storage" and "memory" may
also refer to the parts of a digital computer that retain physical
state (data) for some interval of time, possibly even after electrical
power to the computer is turned off. Where both terms are in use,
"memory" is generally used for the faster forms, and "storage" for the
slower forms.

Chale Jaise Hawayein Sanan Sanan
Udhe Jaise Parinde Gagan Gagan
Jaaye Thithiliyaan Jaise Chaman Chaman
Yoon Hi Ghumoon Main Bhi Magan Magan

Main Deewani Dil Ki Rani Gham Se Anjaani
Kab Darti Hoon Woh Karti Hoon Jo Hai Taani

Koi Rokhe Koi Aaye
Jitna Bhi Mujhko Samjhaaye
Maina Sunoongi Kabhi
Apni Hi Dhun Main Rehti Hoon
Main Pagli Hoon Main Ziddi Hoon
Kehte Hai Yeh To Sabhi
Koi Nahin Jaana Ke
Armaan Kya Hai Mera

Chale Jaise Hawayein Sanan Sanan
Udhe Jaise Parinde Gagan Gagan
Jaaye Thithiliyaan Jaise Chaman Chaman
Yoon Hi Ghumoon Main Bhi Magan Magan

Main Deewani Dil Ki Rani Gham Se Anjaani
Kab Darti Hoon Woh Karti Hoon Jo Hai Taani

Aaye Hasina Yeh To Aaye
Mujhko Dikhane Apni Adhaye
Main Bhi Kuch Kam Nahin...Yeah
Aankhon Mein Aankhen Jo Daalu
Dil Na Churalu Hosh Churalu
Koi Ho Kitna Haseen
Mera Ho Gaya Woh
Jo Ek Baar Mujhse Mila

Chale Jaise Hawayein Sanan Sanan
Udhe Kaise Parinde Gagan Gagan
Jaaye Bhawaren Jaise Chaman Chaman
Yoon Hi Ghumoon Main Bhi Magan Magan

Chale Jaise Hawayein Sanan Sanan
Udhe Jaise Parinde Gagan Gagan
Jaaye Bhawaren Jaise Chaman Chaman
Yoon Hi Ghumoon Main Bhi Magan Magan

Today i was thinking about the day i joined the rediffiland and realised how, so many months have passed
.In all these months i have got so many nice friends.Some of them are
with me and some have left me.I always keep in mind not to say any
harsh words to anybody or to hurt anybody intentionally.but still just
like everybody i am also human being and life is not a bed of roses
even for me.so many expectations from parents,friends,relatives,society
and above all from myself and when we are unable to fulfil expectations
it sometimes results in tensions,pains and frustration.so today i would
like to say sorry to all my friends who are with me and who have left
me. if i have hurt you in any way or said anything wrong due to my
mood.please forgive me.i am really really sorry.but don’t keep any hard
feelings.Tell me,communicate with me ,but don’t forget me.

~Er. Alok Kumar
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Break your silence

Hundred words do not give pain

But a special persons silence

Makes more tears in our heart …

This
is a big true which I have experienced myself. I had a very special
friend who was very much close to my heart we shared our feelings to
each other he was really a gift for me and I loved him a lot …..

But one day every thing went wrong we fought with
each other …… at the starting I didn’t took it very much seriously ….
But as the days passed I understood that a big gap was formed between
us when ever our eyes met with each other it spoke every thing but our lips remained silent for 8 months ….

Day before yesterday breaking all the barriers formed between us we talked to each other. more than words for some times tears spoke for us …….we talked every thing which we wished for . while sitting beside him I felt a feeling which I have never felt before so I cant give that feeling a particular name …..

Time was running so fast ……. I wished if I had more time to spent with him , but we both was too late as it was the last day in our great school as we had finished our 12^th board exam successfully

At last while we were going to leave he asked to me “will you miss me???? With out waiting for my answer he continued I will surely miss you and I hate to do so …..

“ will you stay with me , close to me …..Till my death ” I think it’s the only way I can stop missing you ….. Saying this he went ….

First I didn’t understood what he meant by saying so but when I understood it was too late …. As he already left the school..

But no problem if God wish that we should be always together through out the life he

[god] will make us meet again …..

so ……. What I just want to say is “ IF YOU KEEP WATING FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO BEGIN YOU MAY NEVER BEGIN ….. BEGIN FROM WHERE YOU ARE,WITH WHAT YOU ARE AND WITH WHAT YOU HAVE …..

according to AIRTELL “ BARRIERS BREAK IF PEOPLE TALK ”

SO IF YOUR LIPS ARE SILENT TO SOME ONE COMEON GO AND BREAK IT …

BECAUSE …….

WHEN SOME THING VALUABLE IS NEAR US

WE WONT CARE FOR IT …..

BUT WHEN WEMISS THAT PRECIOUS THING

WE START FEELING FOR IT …….

THAT’S LIFE……..

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90/10 Principle

The 90/10 Principle. Please
read when you're free. This is true and can apply to us .... Have you
read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your/our
life (at least the way you react to situations).

What is this
principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life
is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have
no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from
breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole
schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control
over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the
other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but
you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; You can
control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating
breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what
happened.

What happens when the next will be determined by how
you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the
cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to
your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge
of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and
change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too
busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses
the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the
car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive
40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and
throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter
runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the
office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day
has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because
of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee
splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's
ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel
you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and
cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you
are having.

Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?

Because
of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what
happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some
ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something
negative about you, don't be a sponge! Let the attack roll off like
water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could
result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How
do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose you
temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do
you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at
work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10
principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying
energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it
is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your
frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is
going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90/10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90/10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions
of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and
heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.

Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.

There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.

Worry consumes time.
Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.

Friends are lost.
Life is a bore and often seems cruel.

Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged .. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life.

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